Today is my first real Mother's Day. Last May I was very pregnant (and I was miserable) so I wasn't experiencing any maternal joy. But today for the first time in my life, I was able to dress up my sweet baby girl and take her with me to church on Mother's Day. She was sweet and cute and I cried when someone wished me a happy mothers day. I smiled and sighed when the primary children sang songs to their mothers and looked forward to watching my daughter sing to me.
Almost every Mother's day since I got married I have avoided going to church. There was too much pain surrounding my struggle with infertility for me to make it through an entire sacrament meeting without a melt down. But today I was able to just smile and snuggle my little girl and thank my Heavenly Father for the wonderful gift he gave me 10 months ago.
The speaker was a young man getting ready for a mission. It was a beautiful message and very appropriate for Mother's day and this blog. I am glad I was paying close enough attention to his talk that I could find the conference talk he was quoting.
It is a talk given by Elder Larry Y. Wilson of the quorum of the 70. It fit so beautifully with the messages of love and logic I just had to share a few passages. It apples to LDS parents and not LDS parents alike.
"Unrighteous dominion is often accompanied by constant criticism and the withholding of approval or love. Those on the receiving end feel they can never please such leaders or parents and that they always fall short. Wise parents must weigh when children are ready to begin exercising their own agency in a particular area of their lives. But if parents hold on to all decision-making power and see it as their “right,” they severely limit the growth and development of their children.
Our children are in our homes for a limited time. If we wait until they walk out the door to turn over to them the reins of their moral agency, we have waited too long. They will not suddenly develop the ability to make wise decisions if they have never been free to make any important decisions while in our homes. Such children often either rebel against this compulsion or are crippled by an inability to make any decisions on their own.
Wise parents prepare their children to get along without them. They provide opportunities for growth as children acquire the spiritual maturity to exercise their agency properly. And yes, this means children will sometimes make mistakes and learn from them."
Love and logic is all about teaching your children to make good decisions. I will be creating a new page just for L&L principles and tools and there will be a post specifically about shared control.
I just want to wish every one a happy Mother's Day. Especially my own mother. She has been a strength and support to me for my whole life.
I also want to add a prayer for each and every one of you who wants to be a mother and is having a hard time getting there. I pray that you can persevere, trust in the lords timing and love for you, and don't loose hope.
Happy Parenting
Almost every Mother's day since I got married I have avoided going to church. There was too much pain surrounding my struggle with infertility for me to make it through an entire sacrament meeting without a melt down. But today I was able to just smile and snuggle my little girl and thank my Heavenly Father for the wonderful gift he gave me 10 months ago.
The speaker was a young man getting ready for a mission. It was a beautiful message and very appropriate for Mother's day and this blog. I am glad I was paying close enough attention to his talk that I could find the conference talk he was quoting.
It is a talk given by Elder Larry Y. Wilson of the quorum of the 70. It fit so beautifully with the messages of love and logic I just had to share a few passages. It apples to LDS parents and not LDS parents alike.
"Unrighteous dominion is often accompanied by constant criticism and the withholding of approval or love. Those on the receiving end feel they can never please such leaders or parents and that they always fall short. Wise parents must weigh when children are ready to begin exercising their own agency in a particular area of their lives. But if parents hold on to all decision-making power and see it as their “right,” they severely limit the growth and development of their children.
Our children are in our homes for a limited time. If we wait until they walk out the door to turn over to them the reins of their moral agency, we have waited too long. They will not suddenly develop the ability to make wise decisions if they have never been free to make any important decisions while in our homes. Such children often either rebel against this compulsion or are crippled by an inability to make any decisions on their own.
Wise parents prepare their children to get along without them. They provide opportunities for growth as children acquire the spiritual maturity to exercise their agency properly. And yes, this means children will sometimes make mistakes and learn from them."
Love and logic is all about teaching your children to make good decisions. I will be creating a new page just for L&L principles and tools and there will be a post specifically about shared control.
I just want to wish every one a happy Mother's Day. Especially my own mother. She has been a strength and support to me for my whole life.
I also want to add a prayer for each and every one of you who wants to be a mother and is having a hard time getting there. I pray that you can persevere, trust in the lords timing and love for you, and don't loose hope.
Happy Parenting
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